There May Be An Evolutionary Reason That You Find Your Brother Gross

By: Allison Tatum, Ashley Rioux, Amoni Young, Carter Smith, Ji’Asia Anderson

Have you ever thought, “Man, my brother is hot!” or “I would date my sister”? No? Well, neither have a lot of people and there may be a reason behind that. 

There are not many cases of people jumping into the bed with family members–but why is that? For a long time, the dominant theory (endorsed by Sigmund Freud and many others) was that cultural taboos prevented people from having sex with close family members. For example, an article by the Royal Anthropological Institute of Great Britain and Ireland, discusses the historical social taboos around incest. This perspective suggests that the reason you don’t find your siblings sexually attractive is that society has created a taboo around incest, and that this keeps our animal instincts toward close family members in check. 

However, let’s take a moment to imagine that we live in a different kind of culture, say, one that celebrates sex between siblings. Imagine that it is expected that when each child becomes an adult, they will select whom among their siblings they will marry, settle down with, and raise a family with. If you lived in such a culture, then would you feel excited about the prospect of having sex with your brother or sister? I mean why wouldn’t you be happy? Don’t you like your brother? Isn’t your sister super cool, and don’t you two have a bunch of shared interests? And you know everything about each other, and you really like each other–seems like a perfect match! 

If you’re still not convinced, you’re not alone. And the fact that this intuition that a sexual relationship with a sibling would just be gross, and not feel right, regardless of what is expected of us culturally or socially, suggests that there might be something beyond taboos that is preventing us from choosing our siblings as mates.

In contradiction to the cultural taboo hypothesis of incest avoidance, other researchers have hypothesized that we may have an innate aversion to incestuous behaviors. 

The Evidence 

One study, published in the journal Nature, found evidence that supports the notion that humans have inherited mechanisms that allow us to detect family members. The participants were instructed to respond to questions to examine family life as well as any interactions with siblings. Results supported the idea that humans have a “kinship estimator” which allows us to know who our siblings are. This study focused on the Westermarck effect to help prove that humans have these different mechanisms to stop inbreeding. 

The Westermarck Effect  

How do we learn who our siblings are? In other words, what “cues” are these innate incest-avoidance mechanisms using to determine who is too closely related to us to be an acceptable mate?

Think about a childhood friend of yours that grew up with you like a sibling. Would you ever date or marry that person? If your answer was “not in a million years”, then you are not alone–and this could give us some insight into how our incest avoidance mechanisms work. 

An article, published in the journal American Anthropologists, found support for a concept called the Westermarck Hypothesis, which states that children who grow up together are more likely to not want to get together sexually when they get older. The researcher in this study examined children who lived together as young kids who ended up getting married when they were older. These kids were NOT related. However, most of the marriages failed, which supports the idea of the Westermarck Hypothesis.

That’s not all that has been demonstrated. A study published in the British Journal of Developmental Psychology, conducted a study to see if there would be a sex difference in inbreeding avoidance with the effect of socialization during early childhood. Participants provided a list of people they knew that they could marry and categorized them based on different outcome variables, like their kindness, how much time they spent together and of course, whether the two were cousins. They found that females would rather not marry someone that they spent time with during their childhood more than males; however, males seem to show an aversion to cousin marriages. 

To add more evidence to the Westermarck hypothesis, as published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior, there was a study to see if co-residence among siblings does in fact lead to incest aversion. Just brace yourself for this one because this is the point where it gets weird: Researchers had the participants look at different explicit stimuli and asked them to imagine doing these acts with either their partner or older brother. Ew! Though, “ew” is exactly the point that the researchers were trying to make! The fact that there is a disgust response to this kind of study further supports the point that correspondence among children/siblings leads to an “ew” thought about incest. 

So, maybe Westermarck was onto something?

#JustHuggingKoalas 

Inclusive Fitness Theory

Okay, we know that there’s evidence that we have a mechanism that allows us to detect siblings, but what does society think about this whole concept?

To address this question, in a review published by Emory University, the author focuses on determining why incest avoidance exists. The purpose of this article is to discuss the possible social and biological mechanisms that correlate with inbreeding in various cultures and its prohibitions. Universally, sex between first order relatives are frowned upon, but sexual relations among cousins and other relatives varies on acceptance among cultures. There is debate on the biological predisposition and social factors of inbreeding among humans. One social factor is the idea the mothers play an important role in the development of incest resistance. The relationship between mother and child after birth has the potential to determine the chance of inbreeding at a later age, particularly between the mother and child or later when the child becomes an adult and has children of their own.

Wait…they’re siblings!?

Furthermore, in an interesting study, published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, researchers looked into the mindset of incest offenders by showing them different clips of children (importantly, these clips involved NONSEXUAL activities). The researchers based their hypotheses using the inclusive fitness theory, which states that we have inbreeding mechanisms to stop us from committing sexual acts between those with similar genes as us. Their proposed hypotheses were not able to explain the incestuous behaviors of biological fathers, but their study did show that those sexually interested in extended family members were interested in children more than biological fathers. 

Cue-Based Recognition

A study, published by the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology, performed a test to examine the scent-based mechanism involved in kin-recognition in humans. The participating families were given t-shirts to wear for two days which effectively left their body odor on the shirts. Then, participants were asked to blindly identify the scent of their relatives by smelling the t-shirts. The rates at which they were able to accurately identify familiar scents may provide evidence that scent recognition is an innate mechanism humans use to avoid mating with kin. Furthermore, participants were able to identify their own family’s odor from non-kin families, even in the cases where they were not able to identify the individual family member. This provides evidence for the phenotypic matching mechanism–suggesting that related individuals have similar features that are recognizable by other members of their kin.

Additionally, a review published by the Review of General Psychology discusses cue-based recognition among kin. These mechanisms include familiarity cues, as well as similarity cues. Familiarity cues are based on the idea that an individual will identify kin as those that they grew up with and will find them less attractive as potential mates. Similarity cues are based on scent recognition, and facial recognition. Individuals tend to identify body odors, and facial appearances that are dissimilar to their own more attractive in a potential mate.

I guess you can say we’ve gotten pretty good at detecting our kin over the years.

Inbreeding Depression

Interesting stuff so far, yeah? So, how does this all help us? In other words, why do we have these innate mechanisms to avoid incest–why not mate with our close relatives?

One concept is inbreeding depression, which states that everyone carries 1 to 10 fatal recessive alleles. Ultimately, if you hook up with someone carrying the same fatal recessive allele, the more likely the chance of your offspring surviving decreases. Offspring also have a higher likelihood of having physical/mental birth defects; this does not translate well to creating a successful lineage, meaning one reason incest may be avoided is because of the desire to have a healthy offspring.

The University of Chicago Press published an article which examined the relationship between incest avoidance and survival. This posed the question as to if we as a species, avoid incest due to the complications it can result in when an offspring is conceived. Thus the idea of incest avoidance being a evolutionary survival technique was born. This simply is stating that due to the complications that coincide with incest born children, incest is now avoided to prevent severe health problems in one’s offspring. 

Inbreeding leads to dangerous recessive traits getting passed to offspring

In a review, published by the journal Behavioral Ecology and Sociobiology, there was support found about the dangers of inbreeding depression such as a high occurrence of infant deaths, various types of developmental disorders as well as physical defects.  

So, not so good health wise. However, interestingly enough, there may be some additional cues that we humans look for in terms of knowing who and who not to “get with”:

Take-Aways 

Psychologists have found that incest is a topic that is met across the board with disgust. The idea of having sexual relations with a sibling is not something many people hope to accomplish or let alone picture in their heads.

However, what if you didn’t grow up with your family member and encountered them years later? What if you didn’t know that they were related to you and you developed feelings for them? How would you proceed with the relationship? The automatic response may be “ew” or “I would know right away,” but that’s not always the case. 

It’s definitely unusual, but is it morally wrong?

One example of how a separation between family at a young age can change the outlook on incest is with Kim and her son Ben. Kim gave her son Ben up for adoption when she was just nineteen year old. Flash forward thirty years later, Ben was on a quest to find his birth parents, and received more than he bargained for. Ben and his biological mother Kim reunited and developed romantic feelings for one another. Ben and Kim are now happily engaged and are trying to grow their family by having a child. 

Now you’re probably thinking “oh my gosh, how could they feel that way? They’re related!” Well, the truth is, most mechanisms that are learned to help distinguish family members from non-family members are a result from spending copious amounts of time with them during childhood. These kinds of cues appear to be much stronger mechanisms than resemblance or scent cues. Therefore, when presented with someone who the other may find attractive, there is no mechanism that is stopping them from having those feelings. Yes, the topic of incest is still frowned upon by society, but can you really blame them for falling for a stranger? 

Lions, Tiger Lillies, Roller Coasters – OH MY!

By Casey Jo Gough, Celine Taylor, & Brice Hinkle

Evolution is the study of change over time. When you hear ‘evolution’ maybe you think of Darwin and natural selection, perhaps you think of apes, perhaps you think of cavemen and hunter-gatherers. Even though the study of evolution draws focus on ancient times, evolution continues to impact the modern humans of today. For example, evolution has equipped humans with biologically prepared fears. Biologically prepared fears are specific situations or stimuli that humans are more likely to fear because this was advantageous for survival or reproduction in ancient humans.

Although stereotypical predators are often the first thought that comes to mind, biologically prepared fears encompass much more than avoidance of hungry beasts. Evolution has supplied the modern human with a plethora of biologically prepared fears unrelated to predator avoidance. Could you imagine anxiety being adaptive? It turns out your friend who’s afraid of roller coasters may be more evolutionally ‘fit’ than you think. And who would have thought a fear of plants might be beneficial? This article will describe a few common fears with unexpected evolutionary origins and explain how these fears functioned in the ancient human as an asset for survival or reproduction. 

Fear of the Ferocious

So what might the ancient humans benefit from avoiding? Lions, tigers, and bears- oh my! Fear of predators protected ancient humans from the dangers of sharp teeth and powerful claws. This adaptive mechanism encouraged humans to behave in a way that would keep them safe and alive, such as hunting in groups and seeking cover come nightfall. This is why poisonous spiders and venomous snakes are among some of the most common fears today. Even though humans now live indoors and have access to extensive modern medical care, our species evolved to avoid anything that would be detrimental to survival. So although the threat of these creatures has lessened in the 21st century, historically humans have benefited from fear and avoidance of this threat, so this fear is likely to continue until it is no longer beneficial. 

Avoidance of predators served as a survival mechanism of ancient humans, but today we live in a world of much less predatorial danger. Although we do not encounter lions and tigers as often as we used to, evolution has still prepared us with some mechanisms for survival, such as anxiety. Anxiety is a specific fear response in humans that entails restlessness, sweating, hypervigilance, and rapid heartbeat. Comparative research of animals such as ground squirrels shows similar anxiety responses to humans. This mechanism in animals results in decreased feeding behavior, decreased exploration behavior, and increased vigilance of surroundings. Therefore anxiety responses in animals are likely related to “detecting and dealing with threats to survival.”

Anxiety is an adaptive mechanism that prepared humans to detect and respond to predators and other dangers. Anxiety allows us to recognize threats by making us hypersensitive to the environment and sensory input but also increases the heart rate to prepare for fight-or-flight. For instance, anxiety is more common in women than in men, possibly because ancient women experienced greater vulnerability to threats. In addition, anxiety is also associated with being alone since humans often traveled and lived in large groups for protection. Without protection from family or mates, the survival of vulnerable women and children may be threatened. These adaptations have evolved into something more commonly known today as stranger anxiety, which would have protected ancient humans from engaging with unfamiliar or threatening rivals. Likewise, the modern fear of public speaking can be traced back to social anxiety, rooted in the evolutionary consequences of reputational failure and ostracism which would result in loss of resources, mate access, and possibly survival. Overall, anxiety is more adaptive than one might think. your sweaty palms and racing thoughts stem from a successful evolutionary mechanism, promoting survival and reproduction. Who knew anxiety was an evolutionary superpower? 

Fear of Falling

Have you ever felt anxiety when being on a rollercoaster? Does your stomach ever feels as if it is dropping? What about even when you are looking over the edge of a mountain lookout, have you ever felt queasy, maybe a sense of panic? This is very common when talking about the fear of heights. Fear, in general, is an adaptive feature that is to protect us; it is natural. This makes the fear of height reasonable as it protected our previous ancestors, which is why we are even here today- they did not fall from very high places leaving them to survive. An excellent study done to show that some fears in general, heights for example, are built-in/adapted and not learned over time is the “visual cliff paradigm,” which has been redone many times since the original. First off, you are probably wondering, “What is the visual cliff paradigm?” It is a test given to infants to see if they have developed depth perception.

Now it is not an actual drop! No babies were harmed in the making of the studies! It is just an apparent (not actual) drop from one surface to another- as seen in the photo below. Glass over the patterned surface is not only over the patterned surface, but the other side as well- glass only, keeping the infant on the same surface type. This is there to lead the child to see the floor pattern seen through glass which makes the infant believe there is/is not a drop depending on depth perception. The deep side and shallow side differ in the way that the pattern is place, the deep side is to show a drop effect.

The visual cliff was done in different ways safely, and to make things sweet and simple, the infants did avoid going across specific setups of a height that showed a dip of elevation. Showing avoidance and not proceeding in something shows a fear, fear of heights in this instance. Yes, the infants continued once they knew it was safe, but they still had anxiety when they crossed because they were unsure of what could happen. There also was an averse feeling to the visual cliff when the infant could start walking compared to when they were only crawling. Overall, the infants did not have a fear of heights because they had fallen, but they did not fall as they had this perceived fear, to begin with. The visual cliff paradigm has been tested with other species such as rats and goats.

What specific features cause this fear, you may ask? Noticing the depth of height, the danger it brings to mind creating the uneasiness/queasy or the panic, what it could do to you fatally. Another specific cause for this is simple; it is for survival reasons, as said before! Nobody wants to fall to their death, so there are precautions that go into place in the mind to avoid this from happening. Next time you are on a rollercoaster and you feel like your stomach is in your throat just know that it is valid!

Going back to the whole phobia ordeal tends to put a damper into saying fear of heights is adaptive. It isn’t necessarily learned. Reasons being that can obtain the fear over time, later in life. People can be screened for this phobia in using the symptom checklist. This being a fear that is gained over time can go back to a person falling, watching someone else fall, or just having an overall negative experience in a high place. However, evolved navigation theory also can prove that the fear of heights comes from adaptation as it talks about the perception of height, which can reduce the likelihood of you falling.  

Fear of Flora

You know how babies like to put anything and everything in their mouths? Well, they don’t like plants. Yes, kids really don’t want to eat their veggies, and they’re not overreacting either. Infants help reveal the biologically prepared fear of plants. Plants contain defense mechanisms such as toxins and spines to prevent predators from eating or damaging them. Studies with infants conducted by Wertz and Wynn reveal interesting behavior exhibited exclusively towards plants.

Infants (between 8- and 18-months) will, more likely than not, avoid touching a plant entirely and look for cues that a plant is safe to touch. In the study, researchers controlled for appearance between a plant, an artificial plant, and a constructed object with plant-like features. A second run of the study was done with shells, everyday household items, and other objects like the previous trial. Wertz and Wynn found that the infants took longer to touch the plant and artificial plant over the object or refrained from contact entirely.  The infants also took longer to touch the plant-like objects over the shells and everyday items. The results of the study point to something about the appearance of plants specifically triggering an alert in the mind of a child.

But Wertz and Wynn weren’t done there. Later that year they examined infants’ (between 6- and 18-months) learning about fruit edibility. Because the infants looked for social cues in the last study, the researchers had good reason to believe that they would pick up information regarding fruit. They ran tests to see how infants distinguished between a fruit’s usefulness and edibility. Experimenters would get the baby’s attention, turn toward a plant with dried fruit and eat the fruit and then to a plant-like creation and move the fruit behind the ear, before placing it back down. All actions in the experiment were balanced for which was done first. Follow-up trials used no cue of edibility, a violation of expectation, and familiar objects instead of creations. Infants were still able to identify plants specifically as edible, but only if a cue to edibility was given, and took longer to eat the fruit if they witnessed the artifact’s fruit is edible.

Wertz and Wynn’s research points to the evolutionarily acquired responses, or lack thereof, to plants and their fruit. Infants do grow out of this though, unless you’re Christina Ricci (sorry, Christina). We are all unconditioned to reasonably fear plants specifically until conditioned to believe plants are safe or learn how to differentiate which ones are and are not. On the bright side, fear of plants is a rarely seen irrational fear that could easily be treated. Most of us like plants now though. Possible future research is already being done to decrypt the nature of how babies learn their way out of this phobia. In a paper published earlier in 2019, Dr. Wynn discussed that infants learn about the properties of plants through observation. The children would look to the adults in the room to see what they thought about the plant, before making contact with it, and often times not making contact when no information was obtained.

Something Beyond Your Worst Fear

People have a lot of fears! Whether it’s snakes and spiders, heights or plants, whole milk, or wheat bread, everyone is scared of something. Except for the guy who says he isn’t frightened of anything, but I’m afraid of him. So much work has been done on helping people get over their irrational fears over the past few decades. In fact, Dr. Lars-Göran Öst has found a method of exposure therapy that enables people suffering from specific phobias to move past them in only three hours! It’s ironic that to get over an irrational fear of something you almost never encounter, you will likely have to be exposed to that something far more than you would have ever liked. It sounds scary, but the point of this therapy to show you just how brave you can be. Our phobias developed to keep us safe, not to limit us. Imagine all the little fears we have holding us back, and now imagine if we were all brave enough to act without the restraint of fear. That is real power. Continue reading Lions, Tiger Lillies, Roller Coasters – OH MY! →

Only the Evil Stepmother, or are Stepparents All Evil?

By: Brooke Axelrod, McKenna Hansell, Hayley Mulford, & Sam Paitsel

Step Parents 

     Change is a continual process that happens in everyday life. Some changes can be extremely stress inducing and hard to accept. Unfortunately, a common stressful change that most households undergo is re-marriage. The addition of a new parent can be extremely hard to cope with, as entire family dynamics shift dramatically. Studies have found that the step-parent’s influence can have consequences on children in those families. These consequences aren’t always negative, but could dramatically affect children raised in these step-parent homes during their formative years.

     Many of us have heard the anecdotal phrase “a parent’s love is unconditional”.  However contrary to this, as children many of us were exposed to Disney fairytales, unveiling the evil wrath of the princess’s stepmother. Consistent with these “cartoonish” depictions, research has indicated that a step-parent home can be more dangerous for children: children can be at higher risk of abuse or even homicide by a step-parent compared to a biological parent.

     How can parents be both the benevolent caregiver and the abusive totalitarian? One explanation for this could be genetic relatedness, or the extent to which someone’s genes are similar to your own. In most of the hyper-sensitized Disney depictions, an abusive totalitarian step-mother condemns her step-child while adoring her biological children simultaneously. A perfect example of this is the tale of Cinderella; a young girl’s mother dies and her father remarries, bringing two additional children into the picture with the introduction of a step-mother. Suddenly, Cinderella’s life is dramatically changed as she becomes likened to a handmaiden for these new family members all the while watching her step-sisters be adored by her step-mother. Does this give any weight to the idea that the less genetically related you are to your parents, specifically to your mother, the less parental care you receive? 

Are Step-Parents Depicted This Way for a Reason?

     Evolutionary theorists have suggested that ancestrally, whether or not you were genetically related to a child made a big difference in decisions to invest and care for that child. As we’ll get into shortly, this is because the alternative–investing in all children, regardless of relatedness–would have been a very costly strategy, and therefore selected against strongly by natural selection. This is not to say that people can’t care for unrelated children (clearly they do!), but simply that being unrelated presents one potential barrier to care. Also, it is not an excuse for hostility or abusive behaviors by step-parents (or any parents), but understanding the mechanisms that can sometimes make step-relationships difficult might better enable us to understand the unique difficulties in these relationships and actually help us to promote more positive relationships in blended family households.

    As we just mentioned, evolutionary theorists suggest that cues to relatedness are important in activating parental feelings and motivations toward children. This is because ancestral men and women had to deploy their limited time and resources carefully, in a way that maximized their own genetic interests.  Our ancestors had the obscure problem of ensuring that they were investing in their own child and that their offspring would make it to reproductive age. Since this investment was at a large cost, they would not want to put this into the offspring that do not have the propensity to carry on their genetic makeup. This cost is different for males and females; while females are investing care and time, males are investing resources and the losing the possibility of producing more genetic offspring. This is not to say that a step-father cares more for their step-children, but rather that a step-mother has greater shoes to fill for those children.

    Now, we live in a world that is starkly different in many ways from that ancestral environment, but we still possess these adaptations that shaped our ancestors. By recognizing these adaptations, we are better able to account for their effect. To counteract the sex difference in step-parent relationships, we suggest that bonding with the children is integral. Recognizing these adaptations doesn’t mean we are beholden to them, but rather gives us the opportunity to break free of them. 

  So, Is One Step-Parent Really Worse Than The Other

      The word stepparent conjures up a different image in everyone’s heads, but we all typically envision the same story: evil woman marries the rich widower dad, the dad disappears due to work related things and leaves his biological child behind with the new stepmother, the stepmother then begins to treat the step-child terribly while treating her own biological children well. But is there any truth behind the negative stigma of the “wicked stepmother”? One theory that arises from evolutionary psychology in an attempt to explain this is the mother-child bond, which is believed to be the “intrinsic biological ownness” that mothers share with their children. The logic following this is that biological mothers have a very direct set of “cues” to their relatedness with their children–they carry the children, go through labor, and nurse them. These reliable cues to relatedness are strong triggers of maternal feelings. Without these cues, mothers to unrelated children, like step-children, may have a harder time forming this emotional bond with their children. This sets the scene for step-mothers to experience more difficulty bonding with their step-children, or developing parental feelings toward them. Indeed, evidence suggests that step-mothers are about half as likely as step-fathers to experience parental feelings toward their step-children.

    An additional difficulty step-mothers encounter pertains to gender roles, in which stepmothers “would have to be nurturing, caregivers, and kinkeepers, monitoring the well-being of all family members and their relationship.” These roles are much more difficult to fill, especially considering the already strained nature of stepmother-stepchild relationships. The step-mother has to work harder towards a relationship with the child to strengthen the feeling of closeness, we use today as our cue towards familial bond. This is not to say that these bonds are impossible to create, as they can be created through purposeful involvement by the step-parent towards the child.

     Now that we’ve discussed step-mothers at length, what about step-fathers? Step-fathers are also predicted to have difficulties to overcome in their relationships, albeit for slightly different reasons. Ancestral men–unlike ancestral women–did not possess the same certainty, on average, that a particular child was actually related to them. Because fertilization happens within females, and thus paternity is never certain for males, ancestral men developed adaptations that promoted bonding based on more indirect cues to paternity, like physical and behavioral resemblance. The use of more indirect cues may help to explain the finding we referenced earlier, indicating that step-fathers are more likely to develop parental feelings toward their step-children. Similarly, one study found that children felt their family function was better with a step-father rather than a step-mother. The children felt more communication and co-living with a step-father than with a step-mother. The step-mother has much more relationship to build because of the cues that promote maternal bonding.  Therefore, it can be easier for motivated step-fathers to transition into their new roles with step-children. Step-fathers’ use of more indirect cues suggests that purposefully cultivating a relationship can be accomplished through spending time together engaged in activities of shared interest between parents and children, and finding points of similarity.

Does culture matter? 

    Is this stigma of being an “evil” step-parent attributed universally, or is this localized to only western culture? Most of the research conducted on this subject mainly focuses on families in western culture. Family dynamics are significantly different in western and eastern culture. Families in western cultures tend to be more individualistic and this may play a role in some of the results found. However in eastern communities family dynamics tend to be more collectivist. It would be interesting to see if eastern families who have a step-parent present would yield the same results. Researchers could also look into homes where neither biological parent is present (adoption), and see how they compare to families with either a step-parent present, or both biological parents present. Something else that could be taken into account is the dynamic between half-siblings and their opposing step-parent.

Making Blended Families Successful

     As we said before, the fact that these difficulties have evolutionary roots doesn’t constitute an excuse for abuse, and it also doesn’t mean that all step-relationships are “doomed.”  There are ways to consciously work on building a stronger relationship, and some of these follow predictably from evolutionary theory, like seeking out points of similarity between step-parents and children–especially in the case of step-fathers. One study found that socialization with the child is the most important because it allows them to adopt and share moral values. Another found that the most important parts of step relationships are positive regard for the step-parent, authority accepted by the step-child from the step-parent, and certainty that the child feels they have a relationship with their step-parent. These three things are crucial to build a positive relationship with the step-parent, and can be cultivated through intentional work. 

Another lesson we can take away from evolutionary perspective on this issue is that those involved in step-mother relationships should be patient with themselves if the relationship does not form naturally or easily. There can be additional barriers in this relationship that may take more time to build, but that doesn’t mean that the relationship will never be built. The theories simply suggest it requires more conscious effort.

    Additionally, there may be some unique perks to growing up in blended families. Interestingly, a study found that children in step family homes actually have better social competence and that there is definitely not a difference between types of families. Social competence enables children to interact and bond with other children better, which is definitely an advantage in the tumultuous terrain of middle school. Thus, there can be really positive outcomes for these kind of families and the children who are raised within them. 

Sadly Cinderella’s relationship with her stepmother is the stereotype everyone thinks of regarding step-mothers. However, this is not the right picture to paint. Step-parents can be very involved, supportive, and real family when the effort and relationships are there.